On Tuesdays I answer questions on Instagram stories. I wanted to share my answer to a recent question I received: “As a childhood trauma survivor I find myself highly critical of others. Any suggestions?” Several years ago I bought a home that needed to be remodeled. It was a condo that was outdated and not …

I’ve been roamin’ around, always lookin’ down at all I seePainted faces fill the places I can’t reachYou know that I could use somebody These are the lyrics from the Kings of Leon hit “I could Use Somebody.” An artist named Lachune slowed it down and sang her own version, and each time I listen …

Today, I am leaving the gym and headed for the grocery store to grab two things I left off my list just yesterday. It’s a gray day in Philly. I am speed walking to escape the rain, but not running because the workout just reminded my legs that I haven’t been in the gym for …

I could not figure out which of those lines to make the subject, so I decided on both. Please, hold your applause. I hope this finds you in a place where you can sort through this email and find solace. That is the point of me sending these monthly musings around topics that have left …

I am sitting in the corner chair of my living room with the window cracked open. It’s a gray day, so I have candles lit to create as much comfort for myself as I write about loneliness. I hope by the end of this blog, I have found clarity over what is a looming problem …

“The holidays are so challenging for us. Gradually over the years I have pulled away from many in my life. I now spend most of my time alone. I will be alone on Thanksgiving and Christmas again this year as I was last year and the year before. It is a lonely time. The trauma …

First, I want to express my gratitude that I am writing this to people who understand the need for a survival guide to get through the holidays.  Second, I want to affirm those who have beautiful traditions and look forward to holidays. You building on old memories is beautiful! This time of year comes with …

One of the most sobering experiences I have had on social media has been finding people who connect with thoughts that are typically not safe to speak of. I have seen many share stories of extensive pain and be comforted by others who not only respect the bravery in what they have read but relate …

It takes a lot of work to unravel the part of us that feels apologetic. Those apologies can be as simple as needing help, and asking for it, or as deep as feeling like who we are is a burden. I want to share a couple things that I have discovered through this complicated healing …